To the parents of all bridegrooms,

Please go through the following mail we received in our inbox from two eminent NRIs who are doing excellent service for the Non-residents of our community

[color=blue]Dear Parents,

We are pleased to present this week yet another edition of "Haves and Wants" by Parents seeking Matrimony for their wards! Living all over the world, in the U.S., Canada, U.K. Europe,

At the urging of many parents, we are beginning to integrate Eligible North Indian Bridegrooms and Brides (professionals) living in the U.S. that are seeking! that we are beginning to register with our Initiative! We want to caution our Members that this is NOT a deliberate attempt on the part of our Initiative to encourage or promote "cross~cultural" marriages between S.I. Brahmins and North Indian Brahmins and/or other Hindu Varnas, but merely an attempt to objectively screen and present to our Membership base "what else" and what "other options" are available ~ because, as I said last week, there seems to be such a big "continental divide" in the "inverse" ratio of eligible U.S.citizens bridegrooms and brides seeking one another ~ which stands at 1.5 bridegrooms per every 6-7 brides that are available and seeking ~ as more and more S.I. Brahmin citizen prospective bridegrooms are NOT coming under the scope or radar screen of "parental introductions" and are venturing to "seek out "life-partners" on their own"! This is the largest and single major cause for U.S. citizen brides NOT getting married, coupled with the fact that the brides do not want to relocate and are consequently "ageing" ~ It is no more like where Rama is - that is Ayodhya..for a happy life! Seeing their daughters age, without being married is "bleeding" their parents ~ so some of them are ready to consider and seek alliances from within Hindus, North Indians, Brahmins and other Varnas ~ so you parents must still decide and seek out what is "best for your daughters"! Seeking NI Hindus may not look like a good option for you when your daughter is ONLY 28 or 29 years old but as things begin to manifest as she grows into her 33~34~36, and remains unmarried and you begin to explore other "options"! Please therefore DO NOT misinterpret our postings of (North Indian Hindus) in this area! You the Parents are the best "judges" and "facilitators" for your brides! Whether you want to act when your daughter is 28-29 or 34-35?! is a matter of your choice and privilege!

We urge parents of both North and SI brides to give us introductions of bridegrooms that did not pan out for you or that you simply discarded as being not suitable for your daughter ~ these bridegrooms may be a fit for other brides ~ so you are indirectly helping them to connect in Matrimony! Just send our Newsletters to other bridegrooms that you know, may be seeking! Or introduce us to your friends that may be seeking! If you want to "OPT OUT" of receiving our e-broadcasts, simply reply to this email with the words "OPT OUT" ~ and we'll delete your subscription!

Any Parent registered with our Initiative and subscribing can "write-in" their own ads for their wads seeking very specifically what they are looking for, presenting all that is in that "bride" or "groom" and we will be happy to "post it" in your "own words"! If you are NOT registered with our Initiative you may do so now ~ just turn in the Registration at the tail end of this e-broadcast!

Those seeking parental contact info on the "Haves and Wants"! ads can email their requests to us ~ linking them to your original registration and our acknowledgment and we will be happy to provide Parental contact information to you! We only provide the parental contact info to Subscribing Parents!

Seekirame VivaahaPraapthi Rastu,
Sashti Srinivasan, Founder
Global-Matri.Org
U.S.A.

R. Sivasankaran
London, U.K.



Most of the participants would have met Sri Sivasankaran at Chennai Vivaha Sangamam events recently at both at Sanskrit college as well as Dharmaprakash.

It is my earnest suggestion that we can organise an event involving North Indian brides and South Indian bridegrooms at a suitable venue, time and place based on mutual convenience.

We request prospective bridegrooms to give their consent in writing to our trust `sdkctrust@gmail.com'. Based on your willingness, we shall try to organise the event if sufficient number of people are available.

Regards and best wishes,

Admin

Dear Admin,
Please combine north indian grooms for south indian brides as well in the same event: One in the morning session and the other in the afternoon session. That will be fair
Thanks and regards,

Ganpat wrote:Dear Admin,
Please combine north indian grooms for south indian brides as well in the same event: One in the morning session and the other in the afternoon session. That will be fair
Thanks and regards,

We can do both but in the present situation, we are seeing shortage of girls in the market.

Most of the girls in our community today are well educated and are doing fairly better than boys. It may also be difficult to get suitable boys for these girls. Hence your suggestion can be also be taken into consideration and we can invite both girls and boys to the event as suggested by you.

Let us wait for the response and act accordingly.

All the best

My personal view

Since Our site is for BRAHMINS, we need not conduct special events for north as Punjabi brahmin, UP brahmin, Bengali brahmin etc...

As our aim is to help Brahmins as a whole, making seperate events will again lead to separation of UNITY..

Sorry, if am wrong...(This is my personal view)

Regards
Sharma

I too agree with Sharmaji that all the brahmins are coming under the same umbrella irrespective of the state they belong. During the next event this forum can invite the brahmins belong to the other states, it will be really good. As I was in Mumbai for 23 years I can say that brahmins there are more flexible, forward thinking and understanding.

please provide the nri email id

A good suggestion by Sharmaji,

Sriseshan wrote:I too agree with Sharmaji that all the brahmins are coming under the same umbrella irrespective of the state they belong. During the next event this forum can invite the brahmins belong to the other states, it will be really good. As I was in Mumbai for 23 years I can say that brahmins there are more flexible, forward thinking and understanding.

It is quite true.... But our Southindian Brahmins should reciprocate the same na?

Let us try to make a special program with consultation with other Brahmin Associations in North with special focus on this subject....

If things goes right, lets make it in all areas too.

Regards

Let others too shed their views

I have been impressed by one Mr.Joshi, while, delivering a public speech way back, during 1976 in Bangalore by chiding us, that why are we having so much mental blocks on sub.Division in Bramin community like Iyer,Iyengar,smartha,madhwa etc., A bramin is a bramin you can get married to a bramin girl of neighboring state, even you can get married to a Bramin girl from kashmir nothing wrong do not be close minded.

Accordingly, though I am from Bangalore preferred to marry a bramin girl from Tamil Nadu and moved to Maharashtra/Mumbai on job transfer & now my son is engaged to a Ghadwal Bramin girl from Uttaranchal.

So Mr.Sharmaji's thinking is right. Lets have a sangamam in common as Bramins Vivah Sangamam without any division like North,South,East,West NRI's etc. on the same platform. There may be uneasy on language barrier but one can over come easily by picking up the other language fast.

Please go ahead & this will bring a kind of positive change amongst the youngsters
widen our knowledge & rituals.

All the Best.
Nagesh S Rao

I shall reply to your basic question.

We wish to stick to our roots, because it gives us psychological security, cultural pride and eagerness to preserve our heritage.

But consider these situations.

When I live in Chennai, which is my new home, I think of my native place/district - District being the acceptable benchmark.

When I live in Bengaluru, Hyderabad or Thiruvananthapuram, I think of my state (Tamilnadu)- State being the acceptable benchmark.

When I live in Mumbai, New Delhi or Kolkata, I think of the peninsular part of my nation - any southern state being the acceptable benchmark.

When I live abroad, I think of India - my country being the acceptable benchmark.

Who knows, in future, any good natured human being may be acceptable reflecting the true characteristics of "Vasudeiva Kutumbam".

But in each case, 'adjustment' is expected of every person.

Kudos for the new attempt.

But one thing for sure.
Brahmans from east viz. Kalinga (Orissa), Bengal, etc. eat meat.

I have a colleague in my office, and she is a Odiya Brahman. She is married to Bengali Brahman and they both eat meat (fish). She even finds it a hard in searching for rented house in Nanganallur since our men will not encourage cooking NV foods indoors. Note that most of the Oriya and Bengali Brahmans eat meat

The Brahmans from other states are strict Lacto-Vegetarians (I just don't know about Kashmiris)

If I had hurt your feelings then please forgive me. But this issue have crossed my mind.

I let elders to decide the future COA.

Nice points

Shall put in the picture during our programs.

Expect more inputs from others state brahmins.

Regards
Swaminatha sharma

For people from Bengal and Odisha, fish is a sea-grown vegetable and the fish in their perception is not 'meat'. Moreover, several recipes made of fish are considered to be delicacies for them and liberally offered to their guests or those who are liked by them.

But eating any living creature, bird or animal is eating meat only.

If we say this, they counter by asking, "Even plants have life. Don't you eat them or their produce? Even by drinking cow's milk, you drink its blood(!). Do you think it is fair?"

If we keep on extending this argument further and further, we cannot eat anything to live. Even by inhaling air, that contains several micro-organisms not visible, we unknowingly kill them. But, in God's creation, the motivation to live is satisfied primarily by eating some solids to overcome hunger and drinking some liquids to quench one's thirst. They are the driving forces of human body.

Therefore, as I have clarified elsewhere, so long as you don't eat flesh or drink blood of creatures that move from place to place, you don't commit the sin of eating meat. We have to put a full stop here.

Dear all,
It is my humble opinion that we should spend more time and energy on bringing all brahmin communities in Tamil Nadu,Kerala,Andhra and Karnataka instead of talking much on North Indian Brahmins. As Mr.Sirish said that Many North Indian Brahmins are not vegetarians.

They may be ready to forge an aliance with us eventhough they are non-vegetarians,but will our community accept them is a big question mark.

Still here Iyers and Iyengars don't get along well. Also other Brahmin Cmmunities like Madhwa,Andhra Brahmins,Kannada Brahmins etc. are not mingling with us.

Gujarathi & Marwari Brahmins are strictly vegetarins but still they forge an alliance with only their communities unless there is a love affair in the family. They do this because they want to keep their money and the assets with them.

We being an Iyengar,In our families we have forged an allinace with 4 Iyers families and all are very happy till now. In fact we have not demanded anything from the girls famiies .

In one of the threads I read some one made a point about Iyengars. I could have given a bifitting reply to that point. But instead of stirring up the issue , I left it as it is. If all the Brahmin families behave like this, there won't be any infighting will arise.

So it is my earnest and humble opinion that let us bring all the South Indian States Brahmin families under one umbrella and make them understand that this is high time we should get along well and start discussing at length about entering an alliance between us.

In this process we can also add a line that If the Brahmin families from other states are willing to participate they are welcome. In this way we can achieve our goal.

I feel first let us clearn our back yard.

I am airing this opinion for the best interest of our all Brahmin community. I f I myself feel that this thread may stir up the issue with other Brahmin communities, then my very purpose of bringing all the brahmin communities under one umbrella will fail.

I have staunch belief that BOTH HARI AND HARAN ARE EQUAL.

I am ready to anything for the welfare of our brahmin communities.

regards,
Sriseshan

Dear Sriseshan,

I salute you for your maturity and equanimity. This is what I want from everybody.

Man made the mistake of giving some form, gender and attributes to the God. But, God is beyond all these.

Therefore, these divisions are all man-made and they shall never be allowed to become barriers in our inter-personal relationships and social transactions.

We shall learn to appreciate the good qualities and customs and practices wherever they are and wherever they come from.

Again, I wish to reiterate that to respect others, I need not demonstrate it by having marital ties with anyone and everyone just for the sake of proving I am secular, broad-minded and liberal.

Let us not mix and confuse everything here.

Please read my article on 'Future Road map' in which I have elaborated the step by step process, which shall evolve on its own, without any cajoling, coercion or compulsion.

Thanks Pannvalan ji and Srishesan ji...

Lets work out unanimously in our program.

We shall experiment in other state program and see the required output in practical. Hope during the other state program, you all would be present to focus the issue and bring a solution to this big crisis.

Regards always